I have gone through much in life but losing my brother on September 30, 2018…
This loss gave me an opportunity to meet grief in new ways.
Grief is not only a thing but a place. It can make you feel loss, emptiness, hurt, fear, anger, doubt and resilience all at the same time, which is confusing. Oh, I forgot to say your body vitals go crazy.
I am still early in this process and place. It has become clear that this not a thing to deal with or a place you leave alone.
Grief will take you out of the normalcy of life. It will tell you; you don’t need to eat, socialize, exercise, stay in bed and isolate yourself from the world. If you don’t watch yourself, it will convince you that everything it’s telling you is right. By listening you would be reinforcing the isolation and building of a tomb of destruction.
If you have a predisposition for alcohol or substance abuse grief could take you to this dark place. On the other hand, if you have a strong family structure and faith foundation, lean on them, and you will see how to use this dark place to brighten up life for others. You will become a better you!
I don’t like this place but will not try to shortcut this grieving process or fool myself – for it has a purpose.
Here I go again, building a bridge over troubled waters!
Read, Think and then Act.
Until next time,